Sunday, 31 October 2010

Our dearest Dad has gone from our lives

On Monday my Dad decided he did not want any more treatment and wanted to come home, he was deteriorating and we agreed with his wishes as did the very kind, doctors. He came home and my Mam, myself, our family, some very kind carers and district nurses all made his last few days as comfortable as possible. He passed away with us sat with him talking about old times on Saturday evening at 7.15pm. Our hearts are broken and will always have a gap even when they have healed a little. He was the kindest, caring, generous Dad my brother Peter and I could ever have had as well as a loving husband for my Mam.

A friend of Mam's said that she thought it was a privelege we had had to nurse him through his last days with us all around him and do you know she is right.

Goodbye Dad we will always love you

PS we could not have done this without the help of the excellent NHS employees around us, they were magnificent and so were the carers, I felt very fortunate to have a system that just kicked in straight away to provide him with the care he needed.

8 comments:

Sal said...

I was so sad to read about your dear dad.
I'm thinking of you all.
xxx

Ash said...

So sorry for your sad news. Like you I was so very fortunate to be near my Dad in his last few days and that made all the difference for me. We had to work through all the usual arrangemnts but I have coped so much better because I made my own final goodbyes high in the dales with glorioius scenery, wide open spaces and fresh air to breathe,so much more in keeping with the Dad I knew. I know he is never too far away though I do miss his huge bear hugs and listening to some of his much loved mozart brings him that much closer to my heart. Thinking of you all in your loss, big hugs Anne.

The Cloth Shed said...

So sorry Catherine.....but pleased that you were with your Dad for his final hours.
My thoughts are with you.....
Julie x

Vintage to Victorian at Dairy House Antiques said...

Dear Catherine

I'm so sorry to read of your sad loss, but what wonderful memories you will have to sustain you through the difficult months ahead.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Sue x

A Bun Can Dance said...

Dear Catherine
Thank you for visiting my blog. I am very sorry to read about your Dad's passing. This must be a very difficult time for you, and the word 'heartbreaking' merely touches the tip of what you are experiencing, I'm sure. It sounds as though you were able to have precious time with him towards the end and this will, no doubt, help to ease your pain over time. I hope sad times pass and that you can soon enjoy your happy memories. Take care, Sending you a big hug,
Denise x

VINTAGE HEART said...

HI Catherine , i am ok , a bit bruised and no it was,nt the drink!! whats this about Durham ? where are you let me know, if you can get there for the snow. Lone Linda x x

Louise said...

So sorry to read your sad news. I am just glad you brought your Dad home. I don't think I will ever forgive myself for allowing my Mum to die in a hospice. It's hard. Sending you a big hug. x

Pea Green Kitty said...

Hello there,
Thank You for the lovely lovely comment you posted on my blog, it means so much for me to recieve such kind words.
I have read a little through your recent posts too and I see you have indeed some big changes going on in your life too, as you said.
I am truly sad to hear of your loss and I feel for you, you post brought a tear to my eye, with sadness and also reading that your beloved Father passed away at home, comforatble and surrounded by those he loves, That must be a comfort to you.
xx